tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post2387910785276821173..comments2024-03-15T23:39:29.134-08:00Comments on Scribbit | Motherhood in Alaska: Readers' Panel: Dealing with Nasty CommentsScribbithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03178711182424809035noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-36817118751373045282008-08-11T12:13:00.000-08:002008-08-11T12:13:00.000-08:00Well put. I think people don't realize how they co...Well put. I think people don't realize how they come over in writing. The big mistake is thinking that written word is like conversation. In conversation, you can nest all sorts of non-verbals into the message, which can make a negative message come over much easier. I see people forgetting this when they write something negative. You really need to couch things in writing. Try the above suggestion. Say something nice first.. Then get into your issue... <A HREF="http://BlogSkinny.com/?Create-Blogs" REL="nofollow" TITLE="Great blogging resources">Create Blogs</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-88983726838679142512008-06-13T04:42:00.000-08:002008-06-13T04:42:00.000-08:00couldnt agree more with lis garrett. i have the sa...couldnt agree more with lis garrett. i have the same feeling when i really want to write a nasty comment. if i read something utter nonsense then also i try to find the new things that author is trying to teach me! if i still fell its not worth, i just leave it like that and dont prefer to comment<BR/><BR/>JWP<BR/>-------------<BR/>There are a lot of sites out there showing book video. BookVideoTV, BookTelevision and of course CSPAN, but I like how BN.com and Reader's Entertainment TV have specific genre channels and original shows. There's just more to see and I can be specific in what genre I'm interested in. Anyone else watch online tv? <A HREF="http://www.readersentertainment.tv" REL="nofollow">Reader's Entertainment</A>Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06222491632410205748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-15656984854383364392008-05-28T08:09:00.000-08:002008-05-28T08:09:00.000-08:00I find I really need to take a breather before ans...I find I really need to take a breather before answering because I have often left what I thought was a nice or funny comment and it brought some anger in response. I try to give some grace for just stating things wrongly. We can't hear tone of voice or inflections in typing.Qtpies7https://www.blogger.com/profile/04612364762900912663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-7191412753904805802008-05-13T17:23:00.000-08:002008-05-13T17:23:00.000-08:00I love the flow chart on how to decide whether to ...I love the flow chart on how to decide whether to delete comments or not...can I use it and then link to your site. I love it!Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11064113501129840818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-63841637192813687792008-05-12T09:50:00.000-08:002008-05-12T09:50:00.000-08:00To encourage comments your readers have to feel co...To encourage comments your readers have to feel comfortable, sometimes that takes a few visits--more than a few--to feel comfortable saying something.<BR/><BR/>Some never do and that's fine also.<BR/><BR/>The posts of mine that get the most comments are usually the more thought-provoking commentaries on parenting or blogging (such as this post). Also, anything about movies and tv and music is popular for discussion because almost everyone has a favorite.<BR/><BR/>Hope this answers your question.Scribbithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03178711182424809035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-38888155948774349622008-05-12T09:33:00.000-08:002008-05-12T09:33:00.000-08:00I have copied your matrix for applying questionabl...I have copied your matrix for applying questionable comments and determinining if one should keep them or delete them. So far I have no received any questionable comments but guess its only a matter of time before someone takes incense with my sarcastic remarks, ---at this point of developement of my blog---would LOVE to get comments (other than from my faithful family and friends. Any idea on how I can incourage that?Gary ("Old Dude")https://www.blogger.com/profile/00840287762340872772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-19134581103148660412008-05-10T17:21:00.000-08:002008-05-10T17:21:00.000-08:00Seriously, why even have comments if you just want...Seriously, why even have comments if you just want people to tell you what you want to hear?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-14955570005254179362008-05-10T17:20:00.000-08:002008-05-10T17:20:00.000-08:00Hi, I'm new hereHi, I'm new hereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-80018779713966706322008-05-08T15:40:00.000-08:002008-05-08T15:40:00.000-08:00Darn, I hate leaving comments when I'm like the bi...Darn, I hate leaving comments when I'm like the billionth person, but your post deserves it. Your advice is perfect. You are an asset to the Blogging World! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-17309740960433944732008-05-08T07:46:00.000-08:002008-05-08T07:46:00.000-08:00I get lots of negative mail and sometimes it messe...I get lots of negative mail and sometimes it messes with my mental and emotional well-being. I'm not a typical mommy blogger in that I don't talk about my kids as much as politics or media so maybe I just get more criticism. <BR/><BR/>You would not believe the hate-mail I received from the mean mommies who hate Kate Gosselin. No kidding over 2,000 comments. I really related when Dooce admitted she sought professional help to deal with criticism. Right or wrong I published all of them unless they were outright profanity. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for this, I've struggled with learning how to deal with it in an emotionally detached way.Tracee Sioux, Sioux Ink: Soul Purpose Publishinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06511311972798310564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-39981622899339658902008-05-07T09:22:00.000-08:002008-05-07T09:22:00.000-08:00Hrm. Great post! I wish I had thought of some of...Hrm. Great post! I wish I had thought of some of these things a week ago! But now the lesson will stick. THANK YOU for posting this!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03808321718135225905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-73123169842520838792008-05-06T23:42:00.000-08:002008-05-06T23:42:00.000-08:00M -- loved this post. great points. when i first...M -- loved this post. great points. when i first started reading this post, my first thought was of when our church burned up and i remember a couple of those awful comments ... and then you mentioned them in this post.<BR/><BR/>i like you idea of deleting a bad comment, nipping it in the bud.<BR/><BR/>i have deleted a couple comments on my blog that weren't very cool, but that has rarely happened. by far, people who come by and add their two-cents are pretty kind.<BR/><BR/>thanks, kathleensogratefultobemormon.wordpress.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13141321969690842348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-88123766068166500182008-05-06T20:03:00.000-08:002008-05-06T20:03:00.000-08:00Oh, and you must be completely retarded if you hav...Oh, and you must be completely retarded if you have to deal with the inevitable unpleasantries of life with a freaking flow chart...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-69795075243096620482008-05-06T19:57:00.000-08:002008-05-06T19:57:00.000-08:00That said, your children are quite ugly.That said, your children are quite ugly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-41618739614687453302008-05-06T18:04:00.000-08:002008-05-06T18:04:00.000-08:00I love the chart regarding "should it stay or shou...I love the chart regarding "should it stay or should it go." Great job, and enjoyed your blog. :-)web-bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08880728590415893891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-29931652328660826632008-05-06T16:03:00.000-08:002008-05-06T16:03:00.000-08:00Laughing but gasping when I got to the bottom abou...Laughing but gasping when I got to the bottom about the typo incident. I pointed a typo out to you before but I didn't ask for anything. I did it because I know what a tight ship you run around here and I know you appreciate it if done in a helpful, constructive way, right?lol My goodness that flow chart just proves my point. You are organized with a capital *O*.<BR/>I agree it's wasted effort to try and change or convince someone but I will gladly say what I need to say, if necessary, politeley. As you stated, some comments really aren't even worth responding to. I've been fortunate to not experience any. I have disagreed with a friend blogger but we did so in a mature way and we didn't resort to any name calling. We had a public discussion and it was good.<BR/>You took a topic and made it fun to read about. I like how you do that and I wish I could meet you in San Fran. That's going to be a great time.all over the maphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07683876349920004494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-63831138088050449072008-05-06T12:32:00.000-08:002008-05-06T12:32:00.000-08:00sort of a weird mix of comments, but I was wonderi...sort of a weird mix of comments, but I was wondering how you made that flow chart in your blog - word document, etc???? I'm looking to do something similar<BR/><BR/>Also, I have a story about 13-year old twin girls that just released a novel (Barnes and Noble). Wasn't sure if you'd be interested in reading the release and/or writing on it.<BR/><BR/>Either way, feel free to contact me hlbroeker@gmail.com<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your time! <BR/><BR/>~HeatherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-11914822209674221532008-05-06T12:29:00.000-08:002008-05-06T12:29:00.000-08:00Ah, Michelle... You had me at flowchart. *sniff*...Ah, Michelle... You had me at flowchart. *sniff*<BR/><BR/>I am 100% on board with your take on this. I have gotten a few negative comments, but have ignored them. To respond to just negativity seems to fan the flames, which is what the commenter is probably looking for anyway. Right? Right.<BR/><BR/>On a sidenote, I do not mind comments that disagree with me, as long as the comment is somewhat thoughtful. Sadly, folks are too afraid these days to disagree for fear of being labeled troll. Nobody learns much Groupthink.Cagey (Kelli Oliver George)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13691589813815058981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-85979047753345484132008-05-06T09:17:00.000-08:002008-05-06T09:17:00.000-08:00Very very thoughtful blog on how to deal with net ...Very very thoughtful blog on how to deal with net bullies / virtual trolls. In fact, I never seen such fabulous algorithm to handle situation. Also I agree and usually practice not to react to any negative comments. But once in while the urge comes up so drastically, during those times, I just right my reply in gmail docs. Let it stay there for hour or so. Then re-visit the comment and almost 99.999 % I delete those comments. :D)<BR/><BR/>Thanks for great, thoughtful blog. Keep it up.Phoenix2Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03123038858181685856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-70289188153575515602008-05-06T08:14:00.000-08:002008-05-06T08:14:00.000-08:00Unbelieveable flow chart.Sometimes it's hard to te...Unbelieveable flow chart.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes it's hard to tell if a comment is nasty or if it just came out that way.<BR/><BR/>And sometimes you know for sure.Mindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07503836646472956895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-29805139479071962272008-05-06T07:39:00.000-08:002008-05-06T07:39:00.000-08:00ok, my dear friend would do something like that. ...ok, my dear friend would do something like that. she gets so iritated when she sees a printed mistake, but i love her anyway. she does many odd things to correct others, i just shake my head at her. i however, believe it is rude to point out anothers mistakes, but if it happened, i would say something to the affect (or is that effect), yeah, that's something that i'm sure i may be doing often, or i wouldn't bother anyway. you know, we all know, people who sit around and pick on others are unhappy and it makes them feel better than others for some reason to point out our mistakes... if you had to worry about every little thing on your blog, you wouldn't get much done and there would go my entertainment. i remember my 12th grade english teacher hated my writings....very very long sentences. and i remember thinking at that time, one should be able to write as they please, it is their emotion. since then i have had published poems as well as creating my "own word", in a national magazine interview... so hats off to the creative who don't sit around and nit pick (or knit pik) others...diane allison-stroudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02781679617424590143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-44790276034718116142008-05-06T07:23:00.000-08:002008-05-06T07:23:00.000-08:00Thanks for posting this. I just linked back to you...Thanks for posting this. I just linked back to you as I experienced a bad moment myself. But not from someone leaving a comment, but rather my comment really ticking someone off when I did not mean it too. I apologized but I'm not sure it did any good and the experience left me feeling a bit more shell shocked than I thought it would.Killlashandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655705881605627747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-52424973203893707402008-05-06T05:49:00.000-08:002008-05-06T05:49:00.000-08:00Great post!And one that should be printed out and ...Great post!<BR/>And one that should be printed out and saved beside every bloggers computer!!!Pendullumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11833881250780345533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-47658038801099109742008-05-05T22:36:00.000-08:002008-05-05T22:36:00.000-08:00Hii..nice blog keep it up !!!Hii..nice blog keep it up !!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14194867.post-50277086663645633432008-05-05T20:51:00.000-08:002008-05-05T20:51:00.000-08:00Hi! I found you from Pro-blogger - that was a gre...Hi! I found you from Pro-blogger - that was a great post too :)<BR/><BR/>I haven't had one on my blog yet (it's still new) but I find 'mean' comments are usually funny. So if and when I get one, I'll likely leave it up and mock it for posts and posts to come.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11617259549508716343noreply@blogger.com