Monday, June 09, 2008

1988: Do I Really Want to Go Back?

Okay so I graduated from Robert Service High School in 1988--and by the way, I ask you is there anything more distressing than meeting someone who was born after you graduated from high school? That year is a milestone in your life and coming across someone who wasn't even alive then is like seeing a big flashing sign that says, "You've Officially Arrived at Middle Ageville. Population: around forty-something."

So where was I? Oh yes, back in 1988. The year of big hair, shoulder pads and George Michael . . . anyway I'm facing my 20-year high school reunion this month and the thought has made me very uneasy.

When my 10-year reunion occurred we'd just moved back to Anchorage after collecting a lot of school debt and a few kids. The first night's events were at a bar (we don't drink) the second night's events were expensive ($130) and the third day's activities were scheduled on Sunday when we had other plans. I secretly felt rather relieved that I couldn't make it. I don't have a lot of good memories from high school, I've never kept up with friends from those years and seeing people that made me rather uncomfortable ten years earlier didn't seem like the formula for a winning weekend.

But here it is ten more years and through the beauty of the internet things have changed slightly. I googled "Robert Service High School Class of 1988," found the official class website, complete with my classmates biographies, and spent an hour limping down memory lane.

Fields MoseleyOut of the more than 538 people in my graduating class 9 have died, two-thirds are unaccounted for and the rest seem to be just . . . people. It's odd that where there used to be jocks and nerds, Gucci girls and stoners now there are insurance salesman, municipal employees, Mary Kay consultants and bankers--oh and a news anchor. Apparently Fields Moseley is an anchor on Channel 2 news in Salt Lake City though I suppose with a dramatic name like "Fields" he was pretty much forced into broadcasting. Or perhaps daytime drama--it was inescapable.

And then there's that kid I hit with a snowball.

Chris Lee of SupagroupBack in second grade I was playing around while waiting at the bus stop and I hit a boy in the eye with a snowball. I felt horrible, it was an accident and I hadn't intended to hit him let alone cut up his face up like that and I got in tons of trouble when a teacher found out. What with him being a year younger and rather small for his age a genius kid and all that. But despite the trauma of it all he pushed through and ended up skipping a grade somewhere along the way to join the graduating class of 1988.

Anyway, apparently the molecular biology-Nobel prize thing didn't pan out so he did the only thing left: he formed his own heavy metal band. Supagroup--"Fire for Hire." I kid you not. Long live the 80s! My assessment of the situation after viewing his My Space page is that despite the group's ABBA-evoking name ("soupa-pa troupa-pa beams are gonna blind me . . . ") the band is rather an Asian-American version of Spinal Tap with lots of guitar and anger-management issues that would do Bruce Lee (to whom Chris and his brother claim distant kinship) proud. My sister suggests it all goes back to the snow ball incident.

Yes folks, time and gravity seem to be the great equalizers, we're all older and saggier and suddenly these people don't scare me the way they did twenty years ago--they could in fact prove to be quite entertaining. Maybe I'll go to this reunion thing after all.

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47 comments:

Jeana said...

It obviously goes back to the snowball. Look at all those flames behind him. He's making sure all snowballs melt before they hit him in the face.

Eaton Bennett said...

It's a long way from Alaska to Australia! Hi!! And it would seem that 1988 held interesting things for all of us, my second daughter and fourth child was born that year. In Australia it was our
200th Anniversary as a nation - a very auspicious year indeed. All the best for that reunion. :)

Average Jane said...

My 20-year reunion was kind of meh. I was surprised at how many people I didn't recognize and vice versa.

Christie O. said...

oh yes, i've thought about this, the people born after the year i graduated high school thing. i knew i'd be old one day i guess, turns out i wasn't ready for it.

anyway, funny you graduated with fields mosely, he was a reporter when i worked in news (at another outlet) in slc. small world! good luck at the reunion. i skipped the 10 year. but you've inspired me to maybe go to the next one coming up after all.

Maryann said...

I wasn't into high school then and I'm not much into it now. lol
I think you had a magical snowball there. Can you come to NY and hit me square in the face? lol
A little trivia..I had Martha Quinn in my class. We kinda shared the same boyfriend as he couldn't make up his mind. He went on to work on some very big films. Me? I'm just a schmuck ;)

Wild Squirrel said...

One of my friends married a computer genius. Now they're living it up in Hawaii. I'll have to check out the others on one of those reunion sites...maybe I DO know somebody famous!

Daisy said...

So, so funny...I run into people from my graduation year much too often now that I teach in town. In fact, I teach at a feeder school for my old high school!

Janet said...

My 20-year reunion was in 2000. I went because I was the class president (for unknown reasons - I was very unpopular in high school and hated all of it) and had to help organize it. One of the other girls insisted we have it, and she was willing to do most of the footwork since she was still in Nashville. At that time, only one had died (another died last year, on my birthday no less), and only 4 didn't show up. We stood around and ate and talked. Some people drank a bit, one a bit too much, and we all went home. We didn't do the 25th, we're all just too boring.

Deb - Mom of 3 Girls said...

LOL, I wrote a very similar post last night about my 20th reunion, coming up in a couple of months. Yes, I graduated in 1988 too. And I agree - meeting people who've been born since then is extremely odd. And somewhat depressing. :)

Kelly @ Love Well said...

I say, if you go, pack a few snowballs. (Would slang deem that packing cold? Hmmmm.) You can't be too careful these days.

Mama Cher, Ok, fine, it's Sharon said...

Fields Mosley! That's so funny, I see him on the news all the time! Good luck with the reunion. Even if it is totally awkward you have to go otherwise you will wonder what happened.

angie said...

Really enjoyed this post!

Jennifer said...

I love memory lane walks and HAD to attend the 20 year reunion(2006). The curiosity was killing me. It was truly amazing to see everyone. Although a little sad to realize how little I really knew about them and to not have enough time to hear all about their lives now:)

Gabrielle said...

That is SOOOOOO Funny!!!! Instead of being kids, we have them!!! What a trip! I graduated high school in '86 and I know the V-8 thump in the head when you meet someone that was born thereafter leaving you to feel like dust is settling on your head or in other places nondescript! Love reading you girl!

teenman said...

life just like that, its karma man......

MommyK said...

Every once in awhile, I'll ask the question, "What are your memories of high school?" on one of my online forums, and the responses are overwhelmingly that high school was rotten. So I wonder why so many people make such a big deal out of the social aspects of high school when so many people come out of it thinking it sucked, KWIM?

Anyway, I graduated in 1996 and while my memories are mixed, I'm much happier to be where I am in my life now. And they should teach you that you will never see 90% of the people you go to school with ever again, so their opinions matter very little.

My mom went to one of her reunions and she said the women looked fantastic and the men were all fat and bald.

chelle said...

I have not kept in touch with people from high school until Facebook, now I see they are almost ALL still there, pretty much doing what they did then. I am so not going back EVER>

Bobbie in AK said...

Michelle, Have fun at your 20th reunion. I graduated from Service H.S. in 1985 and I opted to not go to my 20th. Probably should have, I just had other things to do...

Tami said...

My 20 year reunion is next month and I am still debating on if I want to go. We still live in the same town, so maybe.

MiaKatia said...

If you do go I am sure the write up will be quite a good read! I made excuses not to go to my 10th reunion, but hopefully I will go to my 20th.

Shannon said...

Funny post Michelle! It sure brings back some memories.

BTW, I may be making your 'happy cheese bread' recipe on Wednesday with a homemade lentil soup mix I picked up this weekend. . . I'll let you know how it turns out!

Jolene said...

I went to my 10th, it was kind of a game to see how many girls had had work done, which boys were going bald etc... There was a lot of drinking and carrying on so I opted NOT to go to my 20th last year. I kind of wish I would have. I think you should go! Get a killer dress and bring pictures of your kids. I'm sure you will have a ball.

Damselfly said...

Shh-- It's my 20th reunion too. But I don't think I will go. There were only 63 people in my graduating class (small school), and I wasn't really friends with any of them. My friends were a couple years older or a couple years younger.

Doll Clothes Gal said...

1988 was my High School graduation year also although I never experienced "Fire for HIre" - what a great promo pic of them - they must be very proud today!

Beck said...

It's not quite my 20th high school reunion yet, but I skipped my tenth and I live 20 minutes away. So I probably won't be going.

Sarah said...

Yeah, I didn't go back. I let my twin brother make my apologies. If I lived closer, I might have made the trek. It is hard when you don't keep up with anyone (except your brother.)

Good luck!

Gee said...

Oh, Heavens. Of course you should go. For my 10t HS reunion, we had just gotten married. Couldn't make it. But I loved our 20th reunion--and the 30th was a riot. ont' miss it!

Naomi said...

Woo-hoo! Class of '88! Me, too.

Nope, I didn't go to mine. None of the people I wanted to see were planning on going back to Hawaii so I didn't bother, either. Although I am dying of curiosity.

all over the map said...

I have to say I have similar feelings to yours about reuniting with my high school class although I do have a few friends I am still very close with.
I attended my ten year reunion and wasn't surprised to see that some people still acted like they were in high school.
I'm sure your twenty would be fun.

Shalise said...

Hi there,
I live in Utah and Fields Mosley works on channel 2 like you have said, he seems to be a great guy and a great reporter!
Good Luck with the reunion:)

Flea said...

Oh my. The guy on the far right looks like Drew Carey. Which makes the whole photo look SO much more comical. And you, the normal one. What fun!

My Ice Cream Diary said...

I did go to my 10 year reunion and had an ok time even though none of my regular friends were there. It was interesting seeing how many of us changed and the few that stayed exactly the same.

I hope you have loads of fun. And remember, you are a celebrity now. =)

Chief Family Officer said...

Thank you for the laughs! Especially the revised ABBA lyrics - LOL funny!

I can't wait to find out if you decide to go and if you do, how it is. My 20th will be coming up in a couple of years and I'd definitely consider it!

www.dianawriter.com said...

Ouch! That Supagroup myspace just about blinded me ... bright red backdrop as if trying to bring back the good ol' days of being 'in your face.' So I am laughing so hard at your 1988 post. I came from a high school, on Long Island, where all the cool kids wore jeans and shampooed regularly with Jordache Vidal Sassoon - the "if you don't look good, we don't look good" tag line was so important then ... I can impress enough now the importance of being 'a bit of a nerd' (as I was) to make you forge your own path into the REAL world ... It is, by far, the challenges and tough moments that shape a person into who they are today. Not the "I'm cool in high school" stuff.

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Derick & Becky said...

Ha ha ha, we love Fields! Any time we see him on the news we think, he really was destined to be a reporter!

Pete Moring. said...

Life's strange. There are those of us that have fond memories of our past friendships and probably like to think re-unions are great.
But in truth, there are just TOO many people who, for whatever reason, try to deny their past. They live for today and tomorrow only. People you'd think would love to reminisce appear 'cold' and very 'matter-of-fact', often leaving you with negative thoughts.

I wish you well with your re-union, but often the 'memories' are best left that way. (At least in my own experience)

Pete.

Lara said...

Fields Moseley is one of my favorite field reporters. :)

My graduating class has a similar website and you just inspired me to go check it out after ignoring it since the 10 year reunion.

And the thing about meeting people born after you graduated? Totally weird. I prefer to think that time (at least my age) just sort of stood still since then, but that jerks me into a reality. Crazy stuff.

The Motherboard said...

my 20 year is coming up next year!I am still undecided as to whether or not I will attend. highschool = eh.

I watch Fields down here too... I've often wondered if that was his "real" name or his "stage" name. Good to know!

Cuddle Cottage said...

Loved this post, I salute your wit:)

AlaneM said...

Ahhh, the 20th reunion...that I will not be going to!
I was supposed to graduate in 1988 but did not actually do so until 1989 (but that's a post in itself) so I allow myself to attend either or both reunions.
At the 10th I did the 88 one.
They did the cheap night in a bar, expensive semi-formal night that we could not affford & a sunday family picnic. We went to the bar thing & had a blast. I was hoping my 20th would be the same but they only have 1 event this time & it's too much money for us. I'm really bummed but what can you do? I'm hoping the 89 reunion has an affordable option & the 88 30th will be different.

Long lie the 80's!!

elena jane said...

i have happily escaped all of my HS reunions, there's another one this year, and i'm looking for excuses to not go....maybe we'll just have a girls night out...much more fun imo!

and lol @ your famous classmates....don't think any of mine are! ;)

Organizing Mommy said...

I did my 20th last summer with much fear and trepidation, although EVERYONE felt that way. Gals and guys alike were so nervous until they all saw each other again. Actually, it was fine.

jubilee said...

I would dread my 20th - coming up very shortly. But I may luck out like I have in years past when the milestone (the 5th, 10th 15th) comes and goes and no one - and I mean no one - bothers planning a reunion at all. Who's in charge of that kind of thing? See, they shoulda elected me class president after all - and we'd have had all those reunions that no one wants to go to!

Pieces said...

I friend who is my age is dating someone who was born the same year I graduated (1984). That is SO wrong.

Nikki said...

OMG!! I am so LOL right now. My husband is class of 86 and I was 96, however this strikes the nail on the head about people being regular joes long after graduation day. Love this post!

Carlo said...

Good Job! :